Let’s face it. If you're not achieving the kind of results you had hoped to get with your life, maybe the reason doesn't lie with other people. Put simply, you cannot blame other people for your lack of success. Maybe it's not a situation out of your control. Maybe it's not the fact that you weren't born with advantages, maybe it has nothing to do with with any of the common reasons you give yourself. Instead, it may have everything to do with the excuses you choose to believe in. You have to understand that you are always in control of your life. The only person who is truly responsible for your life is yourself. Stop giving yourself any of the common excuses below. If you want to live a more consequential and yes, effective life.
People who think this way believe that the world, and all the goodness in it, is like a giant pie. For a person's slice to get bigger, somebody's slice has to necessarily get smaller. You have to remember that if you want to achieve the best, ‘the best’ is largely defined by you. The outcome that you get out of any effort is ultimately going to be judged by you. When you say that the best is already taken by others you're just giving yourself an excuse not to try. You are assuming that there's only a fixed amount of "the best things in life." That's not true.